The Gift of the Spirit

While I was at Timberline, I had the opportunity to attend a local nondenominational church there, Lemont Calvary Church. I was glad TK provided a way for us to worship. The first couple Sundays I went, the pastor preached on spiritual gifts, and it was interesting to see the timing in light of the other lessons I was learning about myself, how God made me, and what he equipped me to do for his glory.

He used Romans 12 as his basis – I’ll attempt to paraphrase his message. When Paul speaks of gifts in Rom 12:6 he uses the Greek work Charisma. The pastor asked the question, “who is more charismatic than Jesus, the one who draws all men to him?” And then he explained how Jesus, being sinless and the Son of God, embodied all the gifts at the same time. When Jesus left the earth, God was expecting Christ-followers to take up the gospel message and share with others. We are all part of a body that brings the message of Jesus to those around us.

In Romans, Paul says God has given us each a measure of faith and different gifts according to his will. As God divides gifts among us, and we each put our gifts to use, the whole picture of Jesus is presented to those around us. This is one reason why we need a body of believers around us. The pastor gave examples of how people in his life shared their gifts with him, both in the church and in the community. He used Eph 2:20-22 and II Cor 2:15 to support these examples. To paraphrase Eph, we, the church, are…

  • Fellowcitizens of the saints
  • Of the household of God
  • Built on a foundation of Jesus Christ and the apostles
  • Working together to build a dwelling place for God’s Spirit that is “fitly framed together”

and we are blessing each other by using our gifts to create the whole picture.

II Cor 2:14-15 says, “Now thanks be unto God, which always causeth us to triumph in Christ, and maketh manifest the savour of his knowledge by us in every place. For we are unto God a sweet savour of Christ, in them that are saved, and in them that perish: to the one we are the savour of death unto death; and to the other the savour of life unto life.” God will cause us to triumph in Christ and manifest the sweetness of knowing him to everyone in every place. Some will understand and turn to God. Others won’t. It only happens through his Spirit in us; it’s pretty incredible that God would trust us, human beings with free will, to show him to everyone around us.

Other parts of this series included Moses, Samson, and Timothy. Moses tried to explain to God at the burning bush that God should use someone else. He wasn’t believing that God could use him.  Samson wasted his gifts through selfishness, and Timothy was, at first, unaware of his gifts. Paul came along, helped him get started, and then later encouraged Timothy to not forget or be fearful to use his gifts. In I Tim 4:12 &14, Paul told him, “Let no man despise thy youth…neglect not the gift that is in thee, which was given thee by prophecy, with the laying on of the hands of the presbytery.” The word for gift here is the same as in Romans and I Corinthians – charisma. Later Paul repeats himself in II Timothy 1:6-7. “Wherefore I put thee in remembrance that thou stir up the gift of God, which is in thee by the putting on of my hands.”

Recently I became aware that an often-quoted verse – II Timothy 1:7 – is actually immediately after Paul encourages Timothy to use God-given gifts. “For God hath not given us the spirit or fear; but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.” So I have to ask myself…

  • Am I unaware? Have I taken an assessment to find out what my gifts are?
  • Am I unwilling? Now that I know what my God-given gifts and talents are, am I questioning them? Am I questioning God whether he knew what he was doing?
  • Am I apathetic? Am I wasting my gifts, or am I actively using them to share the gospel?
  • Am I anxious? Do I believe God will equip me for what he asks me to do?

Mind/Body Connection

The human body is a marvel and a testament to the power and creativity of God, the brain being the most complicated and mysterious of all. Babies are born with virtually all of the brain cells a human needs, but there are limited connections. As babies experiment and repeat movements, sounds, and thought patterns, connections form, and as long as there’s repetition, these connections continue to form and solidify throughout life. Where pipes and valves make up the circulatory and digestive systems like plumbing, the brain’s electrical system develops over time.

The brain has three main physical parts – the brain stem, the cerebellum, and the cerebrum. The brain stem is at the base of the brain, connecting the rest of the brain to the spinal nerves. Its main task is to control automatic functions, such as breathing, heart rate, digestion, and body temperature, and is where the startle response and the fight, flight, or freeze response are generated.  Sometimes it’s referred to as the reptilian brain because reptiles have all of these functions. This part of the brain is fully functional at birth and can keep the body alive even on life support.

The cerebellum, sometimes called the emotional brain, is located directly above the brain stem. Information about our surroundings is relayed through our senses to the cerebellum where sensations, emotions, and movement are coordinated. While the startle response in the brain stem will cause you to pull your hand away from the hot stove, the cerebellum would take in the feeling of being overheated, irritability at being hot, and tell you to move your arm to fan yourself. This all seems to happen instantly. Because this is the emotional brain, it’s also the information processing center for relationships. People are born with mirror neurons that allow them to mimic others, which gives them the ability as babies to watch their caregivers, copy them, and develop the neural pathways in their brains. We employ these mirror neurons all through life. Think of the last time someone yawned and you followed suit. How we affect others and how they affect us is processed in this part of the brain by way of mirroring (doing things together), repetition (spending time with someone), and allowing the emotions that are felt (pleasant or unpleasant) to be noticed.

The third section of the brain is the cerebrum, also known as the frontal cortex or neocortex. It’s the two halves that you usually see depicted at the top and front of the brain. You’ve probably heard people say they’re more right brained or left brained. This is because the right hemisphere is predominantly emotional, creative, and intuitive, and the left is predominantly logical, rational, and analytical. (At some point, I’ll write about Wise Mind which is how the two halves work together best.) When babies are born, their right brain has more connections than the left. They express their emotions through crying, smiling, cooing and they explore through creativity and intuition. As they grow and learn, the left brain starts to make connections and their logic and reasoning kicks in. The cerebrum is the center for executive function and decision making, and as we mature into adults, the connections there multiply faster and faster.

       

Within the cerebellum are two small organs called the thalamus and the amygdala. The thalamus converges all sensory input in one pot and passes it on to the amygdala (closer to the brain stem) a little faster than to the frontal cortex (decision making). The amygdala sifts through to see if there’s any danger present. If there is, the sympathetic nervous system is engaged, and adrenaline and cortisol are secreted causing the heart rate and blood pressure to go up and energy supplies to increase. This constitutes the fight, flight, or freeze response. The bottom of the brain hijacks the rest, and logical thought is impossible at that moment. The frontal cortex catches up right after, and the person can decide if they want to keep responding the way they started. Once the danger is past the parasympathetic nervous system kicks in to slow the heart back down, deepen the breathing, and restore calm. The parasympathetic system can be jump started through deep breathing, hence the deep breathing exercises for calmness. Essentially the sympathetic and parasympathetic systems are the accelerator and the brake respectively.

When a person lives with trauma – whether it’s a one-time event like a car accident or ongoing like abuse or neglect – they are more sensitized to real or perceived danger. Adrenaline and cortisol levels don’t come down to normal baseline because the fight or flight is always simmering, especially if the threat is ongoing. The body may be trying to settle through the parasympathetic nervous system while the brain is trying to rev up the sympathetic nervous system to protect the body. We know that driving with both the accelerator and brake pressed down wreaks havoc on a vehicle, and likewise, the conflict between systems wreaks havoc on the body. Hypersensitivity to real or perceived danger over a long period of time can show up through autoimmune diseases, bowel problems, sleep problems, migraines, and so on.

Earlier I explained how the brain forms connections through repetition. We all react instinctively, but when trauma happens to children, the short-term survival instinct may be detrimental in the long run. Because it’s helpful at that moment, the child will use that coping mechanism the next time they feel threatened. Over time that neural pathway solidifies. Obviously, if it is detrimental in the long run, that will show up in the long run.  Some examples may be…

  • A child hides, and as an adult they cut off relationships that get too close.
  • A child tries to be as good as possible in order to be invisible, and as an adult their perfectionism causes depression and possibly suicidal thoughts.
  • A child, helpless in stopping abuse, retreats into their mind, and as an adult they become anxious about everything as they continue to spend too much time “in their head.”

Many times the long term effects of hypersensitivity include anxiety and depression as mentioned above, and also post traumatic stress syndrome (PTSD), self-harm, eating disorders, and addictions. People are trying to cope. This was the case for so many residents at the treatment center. Through understanding how the brain and body work, understanding our own coping mechanisms, learning how to find other creative resources, learning to be in the present moment through mindfulness, and many other lessons, we were able to begin healing. Those that begin to understand God’s unconditional love for us are able to heal faster because knowing this allows one to let that hypersensitivity rest. God is there to comfort through all the hard work and tough times in the healing process.

For me, accepting God’s unconditional love, being able to forgive myself, and learning to stay in the moment were key. Christ says Come to me and I will give you rest. When I do come to him, I do find rest. When I forgive myself, I’m not chained to my past actions that God has already forgiven. When I pay attention to the moment I’m living right now, I can steer away from depression due to dwelling on the past and anxiety about what’s going to happen in the future. All of this really does lead to true rest.

One last brainy fact…There are ways to reprocess neural pathways – essentially breaking connections and forming new ones. The brain is capable of being retrained. It’s takes work, hard work, but it can be done. Someday I’ll write more on that!

Community

Recently, at a Bible Study, we were talking about knowing someone – a friend, neighbor, coworker, etc. – for a long time and still only sharing a surface level conversation when we run into them. In a place like Timberline, residents are admitted and discharged every day. Because we were all there to get help for the struggles in our lives, we knew we could be open with each other. We’d get to know each other pretty quickly. Of course, we were living together and spending a lot of daylight hours together, so some of that getting to know you is inevitable!

The idea that time is short, creates an array of options. Some women chose to keep to themselves. Some women made it a point to get to know others as soon as they could. Some were polite to everyone and close with their roommates. I’m sure a lot of choices made were based on how the residents were treated in their relationships before they came to TK. Since I came home, I’ve been thinking about how the community of the lodge could resemble the church body; or even relationships we have outside the church.

When we think we have a lot of time, we may wait to share with another, we may wait to ask another about their trials, and we may walk by without interacting at all. We may even treat God this way. God made us to be in relationship with him and with others. Someday I’ll write about independence, interdependence, and codependence.

Every day at TK we had a community meeting for all residents in our lodge. We had two big white boards and a set agenda. These were some of the things on them…

Here at home, we try to have a family meeting every Sun evening to go over the week’s activities. It would be interesting, I think, if we added a few items from our lodge community meetings to our family meetings. One was a goal for the day, and this was usually things like keeping the lodge clean, being quieter, celebrating a birthday or focusing on our self-care. It makes me curious to see what the kids would come up with for a weekly goal. Another item was three positives – every single day. Again, it makes me curious to see what the kids would list. Once I moved to the PHP step down program, our community meeting was once a week. Many times, the positives included things like not having locks on the bathroom doors!

Another aspect of the community life was the respect for each other’s situation and feelings. In most groups, we were encouraged to share and respond to others’ stories, and in almost every group, we were expected to ask permission, such as “are you open to feedback?” before responding. Everyone had the option to say no they didn’t want feedback. That, too, would be interesting, to see the kids ask before responding to their siblings! In giving feedback, we were expected to use “I statements.”  I’d say, this is my experience, or this is what worked for me. Once in a while, someone would say, you should, but not very often.

This is good advice for all of us.

Shoulding on others should be banned!